As a Celebrant I not only officiate Marriages, I also officiate many other ceremonies.
Today I would like to talk about the importance of grieving for a loved one and being able to say goodbye in the way you want.
I am not going to say I am an expert at officiating these ceremonies, in fact, it breaks my heart to get a call for a ceremony like this. But I want to be able to offer a service for people that want to say goodbye to their loved ones but know they couldn’t create this event alone. As a celebrant I want to offer people a service where it is more of a celebration of life, where people can be involved and reminisce on the good times. I want to be able to let the family and friends decide where they would like to hold the ceremony and go to a place that has meaning to them so that they can one day go back there when they miss their loved one and want to feel they are with them in spirit.
It is a ridiculously hard time when you lose a loved one, not to mention an expensive one, that is why I have tried to offer a service that I believe is reasonable for families. I hope to be flexible with the needs and requests of the families and be able to deliver a ceremony that will be uplifting and respectful to their loved one.
Let’s get personal..
My Mum died when I was 21 years old, and there is not a day that goes by that I don’t think about her. I will never forget her funeral, it was a big church funeral with beautiful music and flowers and a big coffin. The church was packed, as my mum knew everyone. My sisters and I spoke about her life as we stumbled to get the words out while streams of tears flowed down our faces. At the end of the service there was a wake, and it was nice. We had coffee and cake and shared a book of photos of Mum’s life with our friends and family and that was the best part. This has stuck with me for all this time, that it’s not everyone’s “cup of tea” to have a big funeral or to hold one for a loved one. I found it so strange to help my Dad organise the funeral, being pushed into decisions that none of us were ready to make, we never even had a chance to grieve. But with that type of funeral decisions needed to be made quickly, so we just got on with it.
That is why I would like to offer a different type of funeral service, one that is more of a wake or a scattering of ashes. It may not be in everyone’s beliefs to cremate or hold a wake, but if this is something that you think would suit you and your family’s needs please get in touch. A “Scattering of Ashes” ceremony or a wake can be held at any point when you are feeling ready to say goodbye to your loved one. It is not a process that you have to rush into, and you can create a ceremony with me to suit your needs to honour your loved one in your own way or in a way they would have wanted.
If you would like to talk further please get in touch, I would love to meet with you to talk about your thoughts and get to know your loved one that you so dearly loved.